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Thursday, April 10, 2025

Habits that manifest when dying

Jamyang Rinpoche

When I was young, I once went with Soga Rinpoche, an emanation of Amitabha, to a family’s home to recite prayers for a dying man. This man was a trader in horses and cows. He was the savviest businessman in the village and quite well off.

While we were preparing to do puja for him, we saw this man taking out his rosary beads. At first, Soga Rinpoche thought that the man was going to recite prayers and was happy that this man had cultivated a habit of doing practice. Rinpoche praised him, “Very good, wishing to practice is very good.”

But later on, we realized that the man was using the rosary for doing his accounts. In olden Tibet, people used their rosary as a tool for calculating —using different beads for denominations of 10, 100, 1000 etc.

When Soga Rinpoche saw this, he shook his head saying, “Pitiful! He is on the verge of death, yet he is unconcerned about gaining liberation and only thinking of calculating his money. It is really so pitiful!”

Many people are like this when dying. Their minds are preoccupied with their usual habitual tendencies. Businessmen are thinking about their businesses and money. Soldiers are thinking about killing their enemies. Alcoholics are thinking about drinking. The strongest habitual tendency tends to surface at this time.

Similarly, if one is used to practicing Amitabha daily, your mind is directed to Amitabha when you are dying.  This becomes your good chance to go to the pureland.

If one is always practicing Guru Yoga, at the moment of death, your mind naturally turns to the Guru. You pray to Guru, think of Guru, the only thought left is the Guru.  You understand that in the whole world only the Guru can help you at this critical juncture. Nothing else matters now. If you think like that, this is your chance for liberation.

However, if it is difficult to think of the Guru when you die, it is as expressed in the song by Tsangyang Gyatso (6th Dalai Lama): “I should think of the Guru, but there is only darkness when I think of him. I should not think of the lover, but the face continually appears in brilliant clarity.”

If you can’t recall the Guru at this time and your mind continually thinks of other things, it means that your merits are lacking.  It is the same in the bardos.  Would you be thinking of the Guru or thinking of your children? Would you be worried about your wealth being taken by others?  In this state of confusion and attachment, liberation is unlikely.

Hence, it is important to make use of our present life while we still have the chance and ability to habituate our minds to virtue so that these habits come to the forefront when death arrives.

A Vajrayana practitioner who lacks merits will encounter many obstacles. Therefore, you should think, “Whether I live or die, I entrust everything to the Guru Triple Gems. I will not give up on the path.” If you keep making this aspiration and vow, it is easy to eliminate the obstacles. 

When our faith is strong, the blessings of the Guru, Buddhas and Bodhisattvas are correspondingly strong. When faith is weak, the Bodhisattvas are helpless to give you assistance.  Although the Bodhisattvas possess strong blessings, our lack of faith blocks their blessings.  Hence, always hold on to faith and keep praying. Always remember the Guru Triple Gems.